Nurse Mary Stoner was known lovingly as the "Mother of Cuckfield". Born in 1855 in a cottage in Mytten Twitten. The family moved away when Mary was small but returned later and lived at Old Mill, Cuckfield Park.
Mary was the daughter of William Stoner, an employee at the Old Tannery on Brook Street. From an early age, Mary exhibited a compassion for others, a quality nurtured during the time she cared for her ailing mother who was unable to work. This was a foundation for her eventual career in nursing.
After finishing school in her early teens, Mary entered domestic service, working in various roles, including that as a cook and parlourmaid both in Cuckfield and London. One notable position was her employment as a housemaid for the Sergison family at Cuckfield Park. During her time in service, whilst travelling to the Isle of Wight, she witnessed the sinking of HMS Eurydice in 1878, an event she would later recount in her diaries.
Her personal life wasn't without tragedy. While working in London, she met and fell in love with a bootmaker. However, their relationship was cut short when he died of consumption, a loss that seemed to strengthen Mary's resolve to dedicate her life to the care and welfare of others.
Mary’s professional journey in nursing began as an assistant nurse at Cuckfield Infirmary, where her early responsibilities were primarily non-medical , including hours of sewing. Undeterred, she persevered and, in 1890, was appointed as Cuckfield's parish nurse, the village’s first district nurse, by the Reverend Canon Cooper. Over the next two decades, she showed an unwavering commitment to the community, often carrying out both physically and emotionally demanding duties. She would travel through the village braving all weathers to reach those in need of care. She always greeted people with a cheery smile and greeting. Her achievements were remarkable: throughout her career, she attended over 200 childbirths, never losing a single mother. In 1984 it is reported that during the previous year she had nursed 12 women and one man, and made over 150 visits in cases of illness.
Nurse Stoner retired in 1912, but she remained a cherished figure within the community. She lived in a little cottage in the churchyard of Holy Trinity. She died in Cuckfield Hospital in 1947 aged 91. Her life was one of selflessness, devotion, and compassion. Her work not only endeared her to the hearts of the people of Cuckfield but also ensured that her memory would endure as an integral part of the village's history. Her legacy was commemorated with a portrait displayed in Queen’s Hall, a fitting tribute to her impact on Cuckfield.
For those exploring the village’s past, her story serves as a powerful reminder of the strength of the human spirit and the impact of a life dedicated to serving others.
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